Big Gestures!

For me, watching TV shows and movies can sometimes be all about a single moment. Most of the time, because I'm a girl who LOVES romance, those big gestures are romantic. Big gestures are like the turning point of the relationship. The big gesture could be when they finally give in and kiss, or it could be (more likely in the older movies and shows), when he touches her hand or dances with her. Those are the moments that make me go "gahhh!!!" in happy splendor.

I'm reminded of the movie "Chasing Liberty". At some point the main guy, whatever his name was, says something like "he didn't make the big gesture to her" (talking about his father/mother's relationship). Because this dude's father never made the big gesture, the mom and son never saw the father again (or something along those lines). In this case, the big gesture was for the man to say something like "I'll stay home for you" (meaning, not go running off out of the country for his job) (If you've seen this movie and I'm getting it wrong, correct me. It's been awhile). So big gestures differ greatly but, when they are done properly, they totally make the movie...

Or break it.

So what happens when there is no big gesture? Well, let's think of it this way. Imagine you went out to dinner at a super fancy restaurant. It was delicious! Everything tasted extraordinary (I don't understand this word. Why is being EXTRA ordinary a good thing?) and you were stuffed to the max. But, the restaurant is KNOWN for it's delicious, ooey-gooey Chocolate Mountain and Fudge Cake dessert. You're too full to eat it now, but you get it to go. You put it in your fridge and, oddly enough, forget about it. The next evening, after a long, busy day at work and the gym, you're exhausted. You're laying on your bed, wishing you had something to brighten your day. THEN, you realize that you have that incredible dessert downstairs. Instantly, your mouth starts to water (is anyone else craving chocolate?), you jump from your bed, excitement filling your body. You run down the stairs, across the living room, slide across the kitchen floor in your socks, anxiously fling open the door and happily see....

Nothing.

Your roommate ate your cake.

Ah! You're mixed with confusion, anger, disappointment, and you're down-right unsatisfied. Angrily, you search for something to ease your chocolate craving, but nothing works. So, you storm off to your room, swearing to let your roommate have it when they get home from their job.

That's what I feel like when there's no big gesture. The whole thing just fizzes out and you feel like you have to try to replace it with something else. (I fear lots of things in life are like this). But in movies and shows, it's the worse. You expect there to be a big ta-da! If there's not, you're like "what was the point of watching that?" (Kind of like, "What's the point of reading this blog?") There is none! You'll probably feel worse than when you started. If it's a TV show, you pray they will make up for the fizzle with next week's episode. If it's a movie, you're like "is there a sequel I missed??".

So I believe there should be a big gesture. Like I said, it differs greatly. Could be a kiss, could be some perfectly timed words. Who knows. But if your life doesn't have a big gesture, maybe your standards are too high or maybe you're not trying hard enough. Or maybe, you just better keep a good lookout for what's to come.

That's it. :)